African women, we are the most beautiful being ever to walk on earth. We have had all the features before they are approved by the west; thick thighs, big boobs, thick lips, hourglass shape. We have all these features before the west invaded and turn our world upside down….and we lost everything even Beauty now depends on how “they” perceive it rather than how we perceive ourselves…we have been brainwashed, the mind’s eye of our men have been rewired and reset to ignore us if beauty is the topic of discussion.now we judge ourselves, our esteem is so low they are almost diminishing and we women our own worse enemies. The first to body shame our fellow women, to point their flaws; oooh look at her stretch marks, see her dangling breast, see her Knock knees or bow legs, see how big or thick her lips are, look at her elephant thighs, see her squinted eyes e.t.c just because we see ourselves more as competition/threat rather than sisters.
African women, we have so many barriers and obstacles working against us, so much so, that this above anything else should bring us together in sisterhood. Let fix each other’s crown, let’s build our sisterhood..the bond we share should be stronger than any man, petty jealousy, envy, job rivalry, Business rivalry, politics and some of the other mundane things that divide us as women. There is strength in diversity, all of us can not be the same, we come in different size short, tall, thick, slim, fair, dark, big nose, tiny button nose, big mouth, smallmouth but at the end, we are all beautiful because our foremothers told us so. Because we know so, because we believe so, let embrace our kinky hair, our melanin.
Teach the young sisters to stop bleaching it does not add any value to their beauty rather its takes away the beauty of their true self, self-worth, the radiance and natural glow of the skin. It causes health issues apart from the fact that bleaching does not look good on the eyes at all.
So let me share this story with you:
There was a little girl name Baindu in Lauwa Town. Whenever the parents are leaving for work they will ask her, Baindu what can we bring you? she would reply, a doll. Of course, dolls, are cheap especially the ones we call “dry Memuna” her parent will gladly buy and bring home for Baindu.
She always wonders why are dolls don’t look like her or have the same hair, Baindu’s hair is coarse and sometimes she cries when her hair is been braided but her dolls hair are always so soft and so long that she wonders why hers is always short, curly and shrink down after combing.on top of that Baindu’s aunties, uncles, friends, and neighbours will tease her saying; oooh Baindu your child is way prettier, see her hair is long, yours is short, see how straight her nose is yours is broken, see her waist is so small…Baindu will cry and throw the dolls away. The next day her mother said, Baindu what can I bring you today? she replies nothing! the mother asks her, but Baindu why? She replies I don’t want a doll that is prettier than me or doesn’t look like me. She never asks for a doll again because as little as she is, she does not want to be the judge.
Let teach our kids, that they are beautiful irrespective of the colour of their skin or texture of their hair. Let teach our girls self-worth and how to embrace themselves. LOW SELF ESTEEM is real SELF HATE is real..buy them dolls that look like them, don’t compare them with their dolls. Adult, parents are sensitive about to your kids, if our girls/women are healthy emotionally and physically we will have healthy homes, offices, communities because they will be confident to take on the world or any challenges they are faced with and not worry about how they look or how people perceive them. Beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder. the most beautiful person to you will not be as beautiful to the next person. Let embrace ourselves. women allow other women to lean on your shoulder we all do need a shoulder, fix each other’s crown. Catch them young let build our young girls, let’s start again with their generation, kids learn the most when they are young.
We can do it, if only we believe in ourselves let’s be our sister’s keeper, let’s build a sisterhood stronger than the protein fibre of the spider web, let build us.by the way the Baindu story is fictional😂😉🤩😍Salone Uman unu no una sef#Salone women know thyself
©By Rahima Vandy Kargbo know as dasalonetiti Rahima